by KimMcLaughlin | Nov 26, 2025 | Holidays, Intuitive Eating
Can You Really Be an Intuitive Eater at Thanksgiving?
Thanksgiving and intuitive eating might seem like an unlikely pair. Thanksgiving is known for overflowing plates, endless choices, and the cultural expectation to overeat. Intuitive eating, however, is about listening to your body, honoring hunger and fullness, and approaching food with peace (not pressure).
But here’s the truth:
You can be an intuitive eater at Thanksgiving.
I’ve practiced intuitive eating for years, and I’ve supported clients who successfully enjoy the holiday without guilt, restriction, or bingeing.
If I can do it, so can you.
Why This Season Feels So Hard: The Holiday Trifecta
I call the stretch from October 1 to December 31 the Holiday Trifecta. It’s three full months of parties, sweets, special foods, and pressure to “let loose” with eating, paired with an equally strong expectation to diet/lose weight come January.
This is the binge-restrict cycle, and it isn’t a personal failure. It is a version of our culture that shames you for eating. The holidays amplify this message.
Here’s what happens…
Dieting and restricting throughout the year often lead to overeating during special occasions (any holiday). When we limit foods, they become more tempting. When they eventually show up again—like holiday meals—we naturally want more. This is not a lack of willpower. It’s the predictable backlash of restriction.
Halloween, Thanksgiving and Christmas are one month after the other, which creates a lot of pressure around food. The pressure continues with social and familial expectations.
Intuitive eating offers a different path.
How to Be an Intuitive Eater at Thanksgiving
Here are the practices that support me (and my clients) in feeling grounded, peaceful, and connected at holiday meals:
1. Spend part of the day with movement that feels good
This year I am going to a morning yoga class. Other years, my family participated in a local turkey trot or taking a long walk. It isn’t about earning food or burning calories, it’s simply enjoyable activities. Movement can be part of your holiday if it feels nourishing, not punishing.
I enjoy taking a walk after the Thanksgiving meal. It is a great way to get out of the house and get centered.
2. Eat regular meals all day and don’t “save up” for the Thanksgiving meal
One of the biggest mistakes I see people do is not eat all day, so they can “earn” a big meal later. This can lead you to feeling overly hungry, which is a set up for overeating.
On Thanksgiving day, I eat breakfast and lunch just like any other day. When I arrive at the Thanksgiving table, I’m neither starving nor planning to tightly control myself. I choose foods I genuinely want, serve a portion that feels satisfying, and remind myself I can always go back for more.
And you know what?
After years of intuitive eating, I usually find that my first plate is enough.
3. Tune into Hunger and Fullness
Before eating, I check in with my body:
- Am I hungry and how hungry am I?
- What sounds satisfying?
- How will this food make me feel?
Pay attention to both hunger cues and satiety (fullness) cues. Stopping when I’m comfortably full—not stuffed, not deprived. Listening to my body is a skill, and Thanksgiving is a great time to practice.
I have learned that feeling stuffed afterwards is not an enjoyable physical feeling, so I do what I can to avoid it.
4. Care for your emotions
Food isn’t the only challenge at Thanksgiving. Emotions can run high: family dynamics, stress, overstimulation, or expectations can be overwhelming.
I always create a plan to address my emotions ahead of time. My plan often involves:
- Taking a short walk
- Switching conversations
- Taking a few deep breaths
- Stepping outside for quiet
- Finding someone supportive to chat with
Emotional care helps prevent turning to food as the only coping tool.
Think about what you may need emotionally this year and give yourself permission to honor those needs.
Holiday Foods Aren’t Special-Unless We Make Them Special
A big driver of holiday overeating is the belief that certain foods are only available once a year. Marketers fuel this idea with seasonal items (hello, Pumpkin Spice Latte) that create a sense of scarcity.
But here’s the truth:
Most Thanksgiving foods are available year-round.
We could make turkey or pies in March if we wanted. I used to think that mashed potatoes are only available during the holidays. We began to have the more often, because we like them.
When we allow ourselves year-round access to the foods we love, something powerful happens:
habituation.
When we are freely offered food anytime of the year, it is not this irresistible food anymore. We are then less likely to overeat it.
This is why intuitive eating works so well during the holidays, food is never forbidden, and you’re not entering the season from a place of deprivation.
Societal and Cultural Messages About Holiday Eating
These messages are everywhere at this time of year, and they keep us stuck in the binge/restrict cycle:
1. You must exercise to “earn” your meal.
How many times have you heard someone say, I’m going to the Turkey Trot this morning, so I can eat our Thanksgiving meal. This reinforces punishment-based movement and disconnects you from your body. A lot of people I work with do not exercise because it has been seen as punishment for eating.
2. Plan your plate by calories, points, or macros.
Diet culture tells us to pre-decide what we “should” eat. Intuitive eating allows you to choose what you want in the moment. I remember being on a diet where the instructor told us the week before to plan what we would eat on Thanksgiving. I found this was an impossible task. I now know that I go from an intuitive eating mindset and chose in the moment what will work for me.
Granted, there might be a certain style of eating that fuels your body better, do what fits you!
3. Restrict all week so you can indulge on Thanksgiving.
I used to hear this in from diet gurus who said we should eat less during the week so we can eat more at Thanksgiving. This is a setup for overeating, shame, guilt and binging. You deserve to have the right amount of food all week, regardless of what you eat at a holiday meal.
4. “Eat as much as you can—it’s the only time you get this food!”
Overeating is increased by the scarcity mindset. Truthfully, holiday foods are generally always available. In my area we can get foods at most times of the year OR we can freeze foods to eat later. Part of what makes holidays so special is the foods that taste so good and can remind us of our past.
5. Expect to feel physically sick afterward.
NO, it is not normal to expect to feel sick after you eat. I like to have what I want and tell myself; I can have more later. Planning to feel uncomfortable in your body (overfull) is not a loving way to treat yourself.
I encourage you to lean into honoring your bodies needs no matter what holiday it is.
6. Feel guilty because you ate too much.
Sometimes we eat too much for any number of reasons. This is the time to be kind to yourself and lean into more self-love. One of my core principles is to embrace more self-love.
7. Make low-fat or low-calorie versions of your favorite treat.
Ugh, on a holiday I do like the version that tastes the best- not the one that is the lowest calorie. We want to feel satisfied after the meal, which supports our body’s needs.
What If You Ate Intuitively All Year Long?
Eating on Thanksgiving is no different from eating later in the year. Intuitive eating can be the goal for each meal.
Your body doesn’t change its needs because it is a holiday.
Intuitive eating helps you approach every meal with the same mindset: centered, calm, and connected.
Here are some good Intuitive Eating questions to ask yourself…
- What would it feel like to eat intuitively 365 days a year?
- How can I drop the holiday panic and the January guilt?
- When do I trust my body to tell me what it needs?
If I can do this, you can do this. This is possible for you.
Consider what your next step could be?
Think about one way you could bring intuitive eating into your Thanksgiving this year.
It might be:
- Eating breakfast
- Serving yourself what you actually want
- Stopping when you’re satisfied
- Caring for your emotions
- Taking a calming breath before you plate your food
You don’t have to overhaul everything all at once; just small shifts create big peace.
I wish you a holiday filled with food freedom, emotional ease, and deep connection with your body.
You deserve all of this and so much more.
Kim McLaughlin, MA is a Psychotherapist, Speaker, Author, and Coach who specializes in working with people who suffer from binge eating and emotional eating. She is a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor. She is the author of the best-selling book Feed Your Soul Nourish Your Life! A Six Step System to Peace with Food and the Amazon #1 Best Selling book Discovery Your Inspiration.
You can find Kim on her podcast Feed Your Soul with Kim and you can find it on all podcast platforms.
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by KimMcLaughlin | Jul 29, 2025 | Wellness
When people think of confidence, they often imagine someone walking into a room with charisma, standing tall, speaking clearly, and seemingly not caring what others think. Truth is, confidence is much deeper and more personal than outward appearances.
In a recent episode of the Feed Your Soul with Kim podcast, I sat down again with my longtime friend and confidence coach Erin Sum. Erin was my very first podcast guest back in 2019 (Episode 24), and we had a powerful conversation then about how to build confidence. This time, we went even deeper, because confidence isn’t a one-time achievement. It’s an evolving, ever-expanding journey.
If you’ve ever struggled with self-doubt, perfectionism, or that inner voice telling you “you’re not good enough,” we got you.
From Shy to Confident: Erin’s Story
Erin shared a vulnerable and inspiring story about how her confidence journey began. As someone who once identified as extremely shy, she never imagined she would one day speak on stages or coach others to embrace their power.
Her turning point??? She joined Passion Parties — an in-home party company selling relationship-enhancing products. Erin had to speak in front of groups, lead events, and sell products that made most people blush. It was uncomfortable, bold, and totally transformative.
“That was a massive leap outside my comfort zone,” she said. “But I knew I was here to make a difference. I just didn’t know how to do it until I took that step.”
This leap set off a chain reaction that led her to discover life coaching, eventually becoming a full-time confidence transformation coach.
Isn’t Shyness and Confidence the Same Thing?
One of the most fascinating parts of our discussion was around the connection between shyness and confidence. Are they always linked?
Erin believes that, in many cases, they are linked.
“Shyness often means we’re shrinking ourselves, holding back from being who we really are,” she explained. “It’s not just about being quiet — it’s about hiding your light.”
That doesn’t mean every quiet person lacks confidence. But when shyness is rooted in fear of being seen or judged, it can be a signal to look inward and ask:
- What am I holding back?
- Why am I afraid to be fully seen?
- What is the worst that could happen if I am seen?
5 Hidden Signs You Might Be Lacking Confidence
Low self-confidence can show up in sneaky ways. Erin and I discussed several phrases and habits that people don’t always associate with confidence, but which are clear signals:
- “I don’t deserve that.”
Whether it’s a compliment, a raise, or a relationship, feeling unworthy is a hallmark of low confidence.
- Second-guessing yourself constantly.
If you can’t decide without spinning your wheels, it’s often rooted in self-doubt.
- Putting things off because you fear failure or judgment? That’s confidence hiding in the shadows.
- The need to “get it right” before acting can paralyze you — more on that later.
- Not taking action.
Inaction isn’t laziness! It’s often fear disguised as hesitation.
Confidence is a Practice, Not a Destination
One of the most empowering ideas Erin shared was this:
“The more confident you become, the more those limiting beliefs fade away. But they come back- just at a different level.”
There’s a saying: “New level, new devil.” Erin offered a twist: “New level, old devil,” because often, the same fears resurface, just in new disguises.
Maybe you’ve conquered public speaking in small groups, but now you’re afraid to speak at a conference. Or you’ve built a business, but now you’re scared to raise your rates.
That’s not failure. That’s growth.
Really, confidence work is never really “done.” It evolves with you.
Let’s Talk About Perfectionism
Oh, perfectionism: the enemy of creativity, progress, and peace of mind.
Both Erin and I admitted that we’ve fallen into the perfectionism trap. As a Virgo and an only child, Erin joked she was “triple-whammied” with the perfectionism gene.
“I used to spend so much time perfecting a web page or writing,” she said. “Eventually, I had to accept it was never going to be perfect.”
Her favorite mantra (which I now use regularly) is from our mutual mentor, Caterina Rando:
“Done is better than perfect.”
It sounds simple, but it’s a game-changer. Every time I remind myself of this, I can move forward even when things feel messy.
If you’ve ever held back because you couldn’t get something just right, you’re not alone and that’s perfectionism at work.
Haters are Helpful!!!
This might surprise you: one of the biggest confidence boosts Erin ever experienced came from getting her first “hater.”
Yep, someone in her community tore her down publicly. Instead of shrinking, Erin celebrated. She even made a video that night (in her hoodie, no makeup, 9 p.m.) and said:
“Getting a hater means I’ve made it. It means I’m standing for something.”
That video became her most-watched video ever.
Here’s why this matters: If you put yourself out there, people will criticize. Some might even try to tear you down. That’s not a sign to stop — it’s a sign that you’re being bold.
Truth bomb: The people who truly care about you don’t need you to be perfect. And the people who demand perfection? They’re not your people.
Small but Powerful Ways to Build Confidence
So how do we build confidence? Especially if we feel stuck, scared, or deeply self-critical?
Erin offered four simple but powerful steps:
- Ask yourself: What am I afraid of?
Often, naming the fear is enough to take away its power. We tend to exaggerate what might go wrong.
- What’s the worst-case scenario?
Be honest. If you speak up in a meeting, what’s the actual worst that could happen? Usually, it’s not nearly as bad as your brain makes it out to be.
- How would I act if I felt confident and bold?
Imagine your future self, the one who’s already living confidently. What would they do right now?
- Take one small step.
Not a leap. Just a step.
- Send that email.
- Make that call.
- Speak one sentence
Confidence grows with action, not waiting.
Confidence in Real Life: What It Looks Like
Let me share a personal story: I recently had to attend a networking event. As someone who often helps others navigate fear and discomfort, people assume it’s easy for me. It’s not. I had to sit myself down and say:
“Kim, just go. Show up as you are. You’ll find your people there.”
I did and I had conversations that mattered.
The fear beforehand was real.
Leaning on my confidence tools helped just like they will for you.
Confidence doesn’t mean fear is gone. It means you show up anyway.
The Power of Community
One of the most underestimated parts of building confidence is community.
Erin and I both emphasized how important it is to surround yourself with people who:
- Celebrate your growth
- Encourage your bold steps
- Support you when fear shows up
If you don’t have those people in your life yet, seek them out. Join a group. Hire a coach. Talk to a therapist. We are not meant to do this alone.
Self-Reflection: Confidence Check-In
Here are a few journal prompts to help you integrate what you’ve read:
- Where in your life are you currently holding back?
- What fear is underneath that hesitation?
- How would you act if you believed in yourself just 10% more?
- Who in your life encourages your confidence — and who drains it?
- What’s one bold (but manageable) action you can take this week?
Finally, You Deserve to Shine
Confidence isn’t about being loud, being “perfect,” or having it all figured out.
- Trust yourself, even when you’re unsure.
- Show up, even when you’re scared.
- Act, even when you’re doubting.
- Believe, even when you feel shaky.
If you’re struggling with low confidence right now, take a breath. You’re not alone, and you’re not broken. Confidence isn’t something you either have or don’t — it’s something you build. One small, brave action at a time.
Erin and I are living proof of that.
So today, ask yourself:
✨ What would I do if I trusted myself just a little more?
Now go do that.
Want more?
🎧 Listen to the full Feed Your Soul with Kim podcast episode #123 “Beyond Confidence” with Erin Sum. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/123-beyond-confidence/id1473042304?i=1000717437412
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You’ve got this — and we’ve got you.
Disclaimer: This blog is not a replacement for mental health counseling. If you are suffering, seek out a qualified mental health provider. You are worth it!!!
Kim McLaughlin, MA is a Psychotherapist, Speaker, Author, and Coach who helps people literally feel better in their lives.
She specializes in providing therapy for people who suffer from binge eating and emotional eating. She is a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor. She is the author of the best-selling book Feed Your Soul Nourish Your Life! A Six Step System to Peace with Food and the Amazon #1 Best Selling book Discovery Your Inspiration.
You can find Kim on her podcast Feed Your Soul with Kim and you can find it on all podcast platforms.
Wondering if you are an emotional eater? Sign up for the free Am I an Emotional Eater Quiz.
Erin Summ is a Confidence Coach. You can find out more about her on her website- https://erinsumm.com/
Check out her Bold Confident Speaker Series: https://erinsumm.com/empoweredwoman-speakerseries/
by KimMcLaughlin | Nov 15, 2024 | Eating Disorders, Mental Health
Eating disorders can be frustrating for loved ones to deal with.
Like schizophrenia and heart disease, eating disorders have a biological, psychological, and social component.
- Biologically, each has a genetic component and can run in families.
- Psychologically, they each are associated with other mental health factors.
- Socially, each has a history of stigma and public oppression.
Without treatment, eating disorder symptoms, like schizophrenia and heart disease, can progress over time. Each can cause long-term physical and psychological damage, if they are not addressed.
Comorbidity (the presence of 2 or more conditions) exists between eating disorder and other mental health conditions like anxiety, depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder or ADHD. There is a similar comorbidity with schizophrenia and substance use disorders and depression. Also, heart disease can coexist with depression and anxiety.
Therefore, overlapping diagnoses make treatment complex, because it often involves addressing multiple interrelated mental and physical health issues.
We know environmental factors like stress, trauma, and lifestyle can intensify symptoms of both schizophrenia and heart disease.
Eating disorders are also heavily influenced by societal pressures, stress and trauma.
Societal factors like body image ideals or personal trauma can act as triggers for disordered eating, just as stress or lifestyles can exacerbate schizophrenia and heart disease.
Eating disorders, like schizophrenia and heart disease, are often misunderstood by the public.
People can view them (eating disorders, schizophrenia, and heart disease) as something the person brought on themselves and as a function of moral failing where they have not “tried hard enough” to get better. This stigma is in large part the reason people do not want to seek help.
Often people will say, “why can’t you just control yourself and your eating.”
Treating eating disorders often requires a multidisciplinary approach, including medical, psychological, and nutritional treatment. Similarly, management of schizophrenia or heart disease requires a combination of medication, mental health therapy, family and lifestyle changes.
Eating disorders, like schizophrenia and heart disease are treatable (there is hope) it needs understanding treatment providers to assist the person to get better.
Since Eating Disorders are so complicated, how can you support a loved one who is struggling with an eating disorder?
First, you do not have to respond perfectly to your loved one with an eating disorder each time. Give yourself grace to not respond and forgive yourself for what you might have said and done in the past.
You are probably scared your loved one might die or be incapacitated. Your fear makes sense. It is hard to support someone who has an eating disorder, especially when you do not understand it.
I have talked to many loved ones who genuinely feel great love but feel frustrated that the person is not stopping their behavior. I empathize with your situation, and I can honestly say that letting go of your anger can be so helpful to you and your loved one.
Second, increase your constructive and positive communication skills.
This can be easier said than done when it is YOUR loved one that you must interact with. There are many communication skills that can help you.
Try to refrain from judgment.
Seek to understand where they are coming from. Move away from questions and comments that are shaming such as:
- Why did you do that?
- Why don’t you stop?
- What is wrong with you?
- Just eat.
- Don’t eat.
Ask your loved one to help you understand where they are coming from. Let them tell you, not you tell them. A good question is, “I feel confused, can you help me understand.”
When we seek to understand, we can then begin to come from a place of empathy for their situation.
Another great communication skill is active listening, where you listen deeply to what they say. It can be hard to listen when you feel frustrated, and active listening can help decrease the frustration.
Third, seek support for yourself to understand how this is affecting you. It is hard to help someone who has an eating disorder. You have learned a lot from the world about food, weight, and the value of dieting, making it difficult to push aside the societal expectations.
Ask for referrals for a therapist or counselor who can support you in this process.
The professional will be able to help you understand your feelings, thoughts, and reactions. They will be there for you, because when we have a loved one with an eating disorder it seems all the focus is on them. You can also be suffering and deserve a place to feel better.
Fourth, encourage your loved one to seek qualified professional help: a therapist or counselor who is specially trained to work with people with eating disorders.
The suggestion to seek professional help should come from a place of love.
Tell them you love them and are concerned about them.
If the person is talking about the problem, you can suggest they might want to talk to a professional about it. This can be a slow process, and they might say no. That is ok, this is on their timetable, not yours.
If your loved one says no, I encourage a family member to contact a mental health counselor or therapist who specializes in eating disorders to consult. When I, as the therapist, get these types of calls from loved ones, I listen to their situation and give them some non-shaming language to use to encourage the person to make the call.
Fifth, seek out support groups that offer education about eating disorders. Group members can provide their personal experiences about how they handled situations that may spark ideas for you. You can feel isolated being around a loved one with an eating disorder, so seek out others who are trying to eat through an intuitive eating and body positive lens.
Balance between offering support and respecting the autonomy of a loved one with an eating disorder.
There are different ways to respond to a person with an eating disorder based on what the eating disorder is AND how it is affecting their lives. There can be situations where the person is truly in a life-or-death situation. In that instance, work with treatment professionals to determine boundaries to take appropriate and immediate action.
When the eating disorder is not an immediate life-or-death situation, it is important to determine:
- The timing to offer support.
- When you need to give the person the space to make their own decisions.
- If you must set firm limits.
Determining when you offer support and when you respect their autonomy can be something you bring to your own mental health professional or treatment group.
In the end, I want anyone with an eating disorder reading this to know there is hope and there is help. Dealing with eating disorders is complicated and you might feel out of control. The first step can be to admit there is a problem and to ask for help
I know from experience your eating disorder can be treated. There is hope, there is help.
This article was initially published in full in Authority Magazine and Medium.com. Read the full article here: https://medium.com/authority-magazine/kim-mclaughlin-of-lmft-on-how-to-support-a-loved-one-who-is-struggling-with-an-eating-disorder-f5ecd2088ec3
You can find the article video here: https://youtu.be/awGrVXeCCYI
Kim McLaughlin, MA is a Psychotherapist, Speaker, Author, and Coach who specializes in working with people who suffer from binge eating and emotional eating. She is a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor. She is the author of the best-selling book Feed Your Soul Nourish Your Life! A Six Step System to Peace with Food and the Amazon #1 Best Selling book Discovery Your Inspiration.
You can find Kim on her podcast Feed Your Soul with Kim and you can find it on all podcast platforms.
Wondering if you are an emotional eater? Sign up for the free Am I an Emotional Eater Quiz.
by KimMcLaughlin | Nov 22, 2023 | Mental Health
I answered the phone, and the woman (Elisha Machado) told me she was from ABC News 10 and that she is looking to interview a therapist social media, kids and mental health for a broadcast that night.
My head was spinning. I have gotten many calls with somewhat similar statements, but never from a legitimate source. My business coaches were in my head saying, “Say YES.” My fear said, I do not know anything about this topic.
As I talked with Elisha further, it became clear that I had plenty of experience and knowledge to be of assistance to her and her viewers.
I said yes and as I prepared for the interview, I recalled all of the kids and teens I have counseled over the years. I actually had a lot to share with her.
We met for 15 minutes, and I shared as much as I could in that short period of time.
Elisha wanted to know how social media affects kids and their mental health.
Some ways social media affects kids and their mental health:
- Low self-esteem
- Decreased sleep
- Cyberbullying
- Poor body image (body comparison and body shaming)
- Social isolation
- Fear of missing out
- Risky behaviors (often of the sexualized nature)
- Misinformation
- Comparison/envy
I really could have gone on and on about the effects of social media on teens and kids.
Truthfully there are areas where social media assists kids and there are areas of concern.
Mental health symptoms can be triggered by social media use in kids and teens:
- Anxiety
- Depression
- Eating Issues
Mental health symptoms can be exacerbated by social media. There is a lot of comparison, feeling left out and cyberbullying among kids on social media. Really the same effects can happen to adults too.
Parents need to be aware of the problematic areas in social media and pay attention to what their kids are doing.
How can you manage social media, kids, and mental health?
1) Set up expectation for social media use.
Parents need to set boundaries with kids and teens. Setting limits means parents make decisions when kids need to be off social media:
- When we have family time.
- At bedtime.
- In the middle of the night.
- During homework.
2) Parents are role models for kids and teens social media usage.
I think it is important to take time off social media- as a family. Kids and teens can be on social media just like their parents. I think we, as parents, need to check ourselves with the amount of time we are on social media. We can be the role model for good social media usage.
3) Have conversations with your kids about their social media usage.
Talk to them when you see them on social media. Ask them in a friendly way to look at their social media with them. Don’t be confrontative. Ask them questions about what they are watching and what it means to them. Get involved. Show them you want to get to know them more and are curious about what they are doing.
On the interview, I talked about the fact is social media is here, whether it is restricted through legislation or not. I think it is helpful to have conversations with kids and teens about what they are doing, why they are doing it and what the ramifications might be.
4) Lastly, if your kid or teen is exhibiting concerning mental health symptoms contact a qualified mental health professional to help them.
If you see your kid or teen experiencing depression, anxiety, disordered eating or acting in a way that concerns you, seek out help. The landscape of social media is still new to all of us, and the things kids see or what is said to them on social media can be troubling. Contact a provider in your area.
**Read more about my interview with Elisha Machado on ABC News10 on Does Social Media Harm Children’s Mental Health here.
**Watch my interview with Elisha Machado on ABC News10 on Does Social Media Harm Children’s Mental Health. Here.
Kim McLaughlin, MA is a Psychotherapist, Speaker, Author, and Coach who specializes in working with people who suffer from binge eating and emotional eating. She is a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor. She is the author of the best-selling book Feed Your Soul Nourish Your Life! A Six Step System to Peace with Food and the Amazon #1 Best Selling book Discovery Your Inspiration.
You can find Kim on her podcast Feed Your Soul with Kim and you can find it on all podcast platforms.
Wondering if you are an emotional eater? Sign up for the free Am I an Emotional Eater Quiz.
by KimMcLaughlin | May 7, 2014 | Intuitive Eating, Lifestyle, Mental Health
I love to swim, and I tend to feel negative about my body. Even after all these years of focusing on my body image and intuitive eating, shopping for bathing suits can bring up some negative thoughts.
I have decided the good feeling I get from swimming is more important than any negative feeling about trying on a bathing suit.
I read an article about a study of women’s perception about themselves in bathing suits, the researcher, Marika Tiggemann (a psychologist at Flinders University in Australia) found that women feel more negative about their bodies when they are in the store trying on bathing suits as compared when they are wearing their bathing suit in public. She concluded that the negative thoughts were triggered by the bright lights, the intense look at the body and the large mirrors.
Isn’t that interesting, the place we go to try on bathing suits is the worst place for us to feel good in our bodies.
Here are some ideas to survive the trip to the store to try on bathing suits:
- Don’t spend too much time in the mirror.
- Counteract the negative voices that might be telling yourself that your body is not OK.
- Remember the fun you will have swimming or laying in the sun.
- Don’t focus on the size of the suit (it is just a number).
Many women feel self-conscious about their bodies, and being in a bathing suit can really magnify those negative thoughts.
I guess the option is to not go swimming, which I am sad to say many choose to avoid being seen in a bathing suit.
My desire to swim is much greater than any self-conscious feelings I have.
Maybe you are like me:
- I am a work in progress.
- Trying to improve feelings about my body.
- Knowing that swimming is a great outdoor activity that leads to increased mental health, physical health, and self-esteem.
Come on and join me at the pool, the water is great!
Kim McLaughlin, MA is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in helping people with eating issues and eating disorders. If you are concerned about overeating, weight or your use of food in general please contact Kim: Contact Us.
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Kim McLaughlin, MA is a Psychotherapist, Speaker, Author, and Coach who specializes in working with people who suffer from binge eating and emotional eating. She is a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor. She is the author of the best-selling book Feed Your Soul Nourish Your Life! A Six Step System to Peace with Food and the Amazon #1 Best Selling book Discovery Your Inspiration.
Kim McLaughlin, MA is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in helping people with eating issues and 
