Stop Struggling with Candy: Intuitive Eating Tips for the Holiday Season
I have so many memories of struggling with candy around the holidays.
When I was single, I feared having candy in the house. Every Halloween, I’d buy a bag of candy “for the trick-or-treaters,” but that was never how it went. I’d end up eating it all (every piece) then feel ashamed and out of control. I was convinced I couldn’t stop.
A “Solution” that didn’t solve the problem
One year, I came up with a plan: I’d go to the gym on Halloween night.
If you’ve ever been to the gym on Halloween, you know it’s practically empty! But I thought that was the only way to avoid overeating candy. If I wasn’t home, I wouldn’t have to buy any candy—and therefore, I wouldn’t binge.
It worked in a way. I didn’t buy candy. But when I came home, I’d sneak into the house, turn off all the lights, and hide upstairs watching TV so no one would knock.
I felt ashamed to tell the kids I didn’t have candy—I just wanted to avoid the entire situation.
Then came a new perspective…
I married a man who loved giving out candy on Halloween.
He’d buy candy, keep it sealed until Halloween night, enjoy a few pieces, and take the rest to his office to share. Watching him do that amazed me. I saw how candy does not have to have control me. It was possible to have it in the house without obsessing over it.
At first, it still felt hard. I used to think, “You know you’re going to eat it—just do it.” I believed I had no control. Over time, that belief changed.
Learning About Intuitive Eating
Everything began to shift when I discovered Intuitive Eating. (link)
It took time and effort, but I learned how to have true freedom around food. Now, we can have candy in the house, and it doesn’t “call my name.” I can enjoy it when I want it—without guilt, fear, or overeating.
That peace didn’t happen overnight, but it’s possible.
Now I have Peace with Food Over the Holidays.
I’ve realized that peace with food isn’t just about managing food, it’s about addressing the whole picture. There are several key areas that help release the grip food and sweets can have on us:
- Physical
Learn simple, practical ways to look at food and candy differently. Small shifts can make a big difference.
- Emotional
The holidays can bring up strong emotions. Learning to handle them without turning to food is life changing.
- Mental
Those obsessive food thoughts can feel overwhelming. Building tools to manage them is essential.
- Lifestyle & Social
Setting boundaries and learning to say “no” can help you protect your peace during the holidays.
- Mindfulness
When life gets busy, how can you slow down and connect with yourself? Mindfulness helps you get quiet in the chaos.
- Self-Love
Ask yourself, What do I really need? When you treat yourself with love, your relationship with food naturally softens.
Why Restriction Doesn’t Work
Notice that only one of these six components is about food itself. That’s because food isn’t the real issue—restriction is.
When we restrict food, it only increases obsession and guilt. The real solution is creating balance among all the physical, emotional, and mental parts of our lives.
It takes effort and practice, but it truly works.
Finding real Peace with Food
Today, I happily hand out candy to our neighborhood kids. I don’t feel anxious when my daughter brings home her Halloween treats. I can enjoy a piece—and move on.
That’s peace with food, and you can have it too.
If you want to start now, here are some journaling questions to help you look at food, candy and Halloween differently:
- What have you been told about candy?
- Is there a fear of gaining weight from eating candy?
- Is there a need that you are not meeting?
- Do you allow yourself to have candy mindfully?
- What family memories do you have of candy?
- Did you get candy when you were good?
- Were you shamed of how your body looked?
Start by wondering what candy means to you. You might find some really insightful answers.
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Disclaimer: This blog is not a replacement for mental health counseling. If you are suffering, seek out a qualified mental health provider. You are worth it!!!
Kim McLaughlin, MA is a Psychotherapist, Speaker, Author, and Coach who helps people literally feel better in their lives. She specializes in working with people who suffer from binge eating and emotional eating. She is a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor. She is the author of the best-selling book Feed Your Soul Nourish Your Life! A Six Step System to Peace with Food and the Amazon #1 Best Selling book Discovery Your Inspiration.
You can find Kim on her podcast Feed Your Soul with Kim and you can find it on all podcast platforms. Listen to the companion episode on the Feed Your Soul with Kim Podcast.
Wondering if you are an emotional eater? Sign up for the free Am I an Emotional Eater Quiz.
